Thoughts: It’s okay to be a kaypoh (sometimes)

A few days ago I read about this Triple Murder in Malaysia, it caught my attention because kids were murdered and the mother is the prime suspect. How sad that is. Then a few days later, more details were revealed and a sadder truth was told.

It appears that the father (who was also found dead at the scene) was violent and had killed the baby 3 months ago when he slammed a chair at the baby who was doing what every baby was doing, crying. And the mother seems to be lost in her own world unsure of what is happening around her. They found out the truth from the two elder sons who were also abused and traumatised.

Everytime I read about child abuse and (in broader terms) family violence, my heartaches. What has these little children done to deserve this kind of treatment. And in the past, I couldn’t comprehen why the victim or the other parent if it is young kids never stand up for themselves. What has make them give up their paternal instincts? Is it because of the love for the other party? Because of financial dependence? Or thinking this is just a one-off incident? Or that they will change?

Now that I’m older, I still couldn’t understand but I am more accepting that there must be some kind of compelling reasons for someone to suffer in silence. I just hope that whatever it is, they will seek help before its too late.

As for the rest of us, I hope we can all look out for those who seems to be suffering. If you hear constant quarelling or slamming of furnitures, we should help watch out for the family. You might be called a “kaypoh” and yest its very demeaning, but if it help save a life I think it is worth it. So be more vigilant and stretch out a real helping hand for those in need. Here is an article that explains how we can help those in need. And for the numbers to call, you can refer to the this website.

If my writing is not powerful enough to convince you to act, how about a real life case to show you the impact. It’s really okay to be a “kaypoh” sometimes.

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4 thoughts on “Thoughts: It’s okay to be a kaypoh (sometimes)

  1. I hear you! In many of cases that came to light in the media, I noticed that there was a lot of problematic relationships. In a few cases I remembered, the male abuser was not even the biological father. I think child rearing is really tough and even more so when families are struggling with finances and have warped relationships. I wonder whether there is any way for people to give up children they don’t really care for, when there are so many families who would welcome children!

    1. Exactly, there are those who wants children badly, and there are those who treat theirs badly.

      You know I use to belief that no one should go for an abortion. But I wonder if abortion in these cases are actually better for everyone.

  2. I feel it’s very hard especially when you hear cries of child/ren but the parents or guardians could be disciplining them instead. Like what the writer of the article stated, police may also deemed your call as kayboh! This is a really tricky situation to deal with. I must confessed that I also won’t know how to handle such.

    1. I agree with you, its really hard to determine if it is just disciplining or a real abuse. Which is why I think there is a high chance we will be labelled ‘kaypoh’. I think there is no straight forward answer, but lets just not be too ‘ignorant’. I think if there are obvious cues like bruises and all, we should take some action. Be it talking to them or making a police report.

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