As mention in my previous post, I’m still reading (slowly) Tuesday with Morrie. And I love another quote from the book which all the more affirms my belief to put my family above work.
“This is part of what a family is about, not just love, but letting others know there’s someone who is watching out for them. It’s knowing that your family will be there watching out for you. Nothing else will give you that. Not money. Not fame. Not work.”
I remembered years back when I just enter the work force, I also work day and night in a project. And one of my associate from another company told me something similar. He said “If I’m to collapse there and die of work exhaustion, my employer will not be the one grieving my death. Its my parents and loved ones who will.” I was too young then to fully understand what he was trying to tell me. But now years later, with kids of my own, that I truly understand his meaning.
Of course neither he nor Morrie is asking us to be irresponsible. But I think more of what should be the priority. The pursuit for material and status gain? Or the family time. I think I have a conclusion now.
Another quote from Morrie that I find it really true.
“If you want the experience of having complete responsibility for another human being, and to learn to love and bond in the deepest way, then you should have children.”
Who can bring a smile on your face that really warms your heart?
Who can make you so angry at one moment but break down in laughter in a matter of minutes?
Who can make you go into sleepless nights just to ensure that their fever doesn’t shot up?
Whose feet and toes that you will so willingly kiss?
Whose poo-poo will you so happily see and exclaim in joy? (I certainly did when my girl didn’t poo after coming back from the hospital)
There are so many things that I have learnt since I became a mother. The kind of joy and love that it brings is so difficult to describe and you really don’t know until you have a child of your own. No, your niece or nephew is never the same as your own kid. Its just different when its your own.