This is not an unfamiliar book to many. I have this book for years, but it was left in the bookshelves in my parents place. Recently I’m back to reading, so last week when I went back to my parents place, I picked up the book to bring home to read. I regret not reading it earlier.
I’m still in the early stage of the book. I only have like 15 minutes everyday to read when I’m on the way to work. So my progress is slow. But nonetheless, I’m inspired but a few quotes already.
I’m recently torn with something at work. There seems to be an opportunity coming up which means bigger roles and bigger responsibilities. Although its still an early stage but I think it will happen somehow. The question is whether I want / I can take up this bigger role. Seriously, I’m still quite contented with what I’m doing now. I mean I have just moved into this position for less than a year. I’m just starting to learn and get comfortable with the role and now a bigger role has come in. I have some inertia in taking up the role because I think I’m not up to it. And there are other relation issues. Now its between me and another colleague. If we both don’t take up the role, the future will be quite gray for the team as a whole. So I have been quite troubled with this. And I came across this quote.
“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
I asked myself, what is important in my life. How does I want my life to be like? Am I what I use to be like when I was young where I dreamed to be an CIO or CTO? No. Seriously life has changed for me since the birth of my kids. I cherish all the moments I have with them. They are what I deem as important now. I’m still working because I know I’m not patient enough to face them for extended long hours. Besides, I think school is a good place for them to pick up skills that they can’t learn at home. Furthermore, I also wish to bring more bread home so that the kids have lesser worry in the future and we can take care of our own retirement. So I work hard for the money. Of course with greater roles and responsibilities, it means my pay check should increase too. But it probably means at the expense of my family time.
I think I’m contented with what I’m earning now. Of course I wish for more, but I think we wouldn’t starve if I don’t take up the “new challenge”. It just probably means that the kids will have lesser toys and me lesser luxury stuff. But I think these are not as important as family time. So I will say I will skip the opportunity now. Yes it may take a long time before it comes knocking again. But if I miss the development of my kids, it will never come knocking again. And the impact on them will last longer than not having better toys. Its a tough decision but I think I really have to weigh what is more important.
This brings to another quote.
“The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it.”
I think family values are much more important than material values. I’m sure we all feel so. But we tend to forget it because of the popular culture here where we measure success through material means. So again we are reminded here with this quote.
Work VS Family and Love. The choice sometimes is quite clear when we break it down to the lowest term.