Motherhood, Pregnancy and Baby

You might be wondering why the title is in this order instead of Pregnancy, Baby and Motherhood… this is because I’m actually referring to the documentaries on Discovery Home and Health…

Because of some turn of events, I was home alone yesterday evening… with no Zai and no dinner I have quite some time to spare… so I did something I didn’t do for a long time… watch TV… sounds scary huh? it wasn’t that exaggerating, I still have time for some DVDs but no time to really do channel surfing… actually its myself lah… just want to spend more time with Zai…

So yesterday when I was channel surfing, I saw “Surviving Motherhood” on Discovery Home and Health… I tot the title was interesting so I stopped to watch… The documentary was already half way through, they were on this case where the mother is asking about her to deal with her yelling daughter… and how her daughter is very disrespectful especially to her husband, because her husband hardly spend anytime with her… well the suggestions they gave were like quite normal… so not worth much mentioning… the 2nd case was about a mother asking her to introduce the body parts to her boy who is getting curious… and suggestions were to teach them matter-of-factly…. hmmm… well, I dunno if it will work, but I can keep in mind in case I need it in the future…

After “surviving motherhood” was “I Didn’t Know I was Pregnant”… now this title is even more interesting, how can someone not know they are pregnant…. well after watching the documentary, I’m convince its totally possible… The first “story” was about a lady who was sick in Jan.. so she took anti-biotic with her contraceptives pills… and she misses her menses in Feb… however, it resumes in March and came back again 2 weeks after that… and subsequently she still have her flow…. she put on some weight a few months later, but she attributed it to a change of job where she have to do shift work and she spend hours sitting and drinking coffee to keep her awake.. she thought its because of these that she put on her weight… and around May she starts to have reaction against dairy products, and she thought it was due to her digestive system… so she ignored the tell tail signs also… until one day in October.. she was watching TV in bed with her boyfriend that she felt pain in her stomach… she thought it was her constipation… cos she has a weak digestive system… she try to sleep to ignore the pain… but after awhile the pain became more sever and more frequent… so she thought she needs to go to the toilet… and so she sat on the toilet bowl and try to shit… but after sometime she still can’t get her “shit” out… so she pause and sat down at the bath area to rest… but the pain became even more sever.. so she decides to try again… after some time, she finally manage to “shit” it out.. she heard a “plop” and all the pain is gone… she was very relief… when she stands up and wants to flush the toilet, she realize she was “attached”… and when she turn around and see.. she was horrified to realize that there was a umbilical cord and there was a baby in the toilet bowl… and not crying… she broke down… and out of instinct, she took the baby and turn on the shower…. to try heat up the baby… and after sometime, the baby cried… and only then did the boyfriend become puzzled and walk into the bathroom… seeing his girlfriend naked with the baby…. and they were sent to the hospital…

because there was no pre-natal care, and the baby was given in a non sterile environment and worst a toilet bowl, plus the “shower” they have to do lots of test on the baby to check her well being…. the lady was very worried during this period… but all is lucky.. the baby miraculously survived all this and is healthy… keitsu cried when she saw the relief of the mother….

the second “story” is about this lady who has problem with her uterus… In 2003 when she was pregnant with her boy, she was really happy and took great care during her pregnancy stage. However, 6 weeks before her EDD, her gynae detected that she has an extremely high blood pressure and all. So they have to take out the baby… and her boy was born without a fully developed lung.. as such he was in the “incubator” for a period of time and chances of survival is only 50%… but luckily her boy was strong, survived and slowly got healthier… however, her own health took a turn for the worst… she start having pains in her uterus because of inflammation and all… it will be so painful that she breaks down into tears… after a long while, she decides she is not going to have a baby anymore… because of the inability to handle the “stress” again… so she decides to have her uterus removed… and this will also help relief her of her pain…

so she went to a doctor and started on her 10 month preparation for the op.. where she has to inject hormone pills to stop herself from ovulating…. and during her final check before the op, her doctor felt a hard lump… he suspected tumor… and the lady broke down… thinking that the worst have happened… the doctor advice her to do an ultra sound before they proceed…. and so after the scan, it appears that she is pregnant! this shock herself and her doctor… cos the hormones injection should have stop her ovulation and she wasn’t even having menses… plus she also takes contraceptives pills… (this is what keitsu feel that if god wants to give you a child, you really cannot run away from it)…. and the baby is going to be due in a few weeks time…

but because of the lack of pre-natal care and having the injections, the doctor needs to check on the well being of her baby… especially her spine growth and brain development… so they prep to have the amino fluid test… after preparing all the needle and getting ready to draw the water, they realize from the ultra sound that there is no amino fluid… which means the baby is in danger as there is no nutrients feeding to him/her… as such they have to do an emergency cesarean to take out the baby….

finally the baby girl was born.. after the initial body checks, she seems to be okie physically.. so off they go back home… but 4 months later, they find that the baby muscles are rather stiff and she is unable to grab things… so they went to a PD… and the PD told them it could be due to an improper brain development because of the hormones injection… so they did an MRI on the baby and waited what they felt was the longest 1 week in their life… well, miracles happened… the baby is fine.. she is not suffering from any brain problems… and a few months later, they found her muscles start to soften and she is now a healthy baby girl…

after watching this, I can really understand the pain they are going through.. like a mention during my own pregnancy I was also kinda of stress… really alot can go wrong in a pregnancy… even at this stage where Zai is older, I still feel the stress of needing to take care of him properly… a few weeks back when he caught HFMD, my heart aches… but I was glad it was mild to him and he was still active and have his meal regularly… parents is really a lifetime responsibilites…

The last documentary was “A Baby Story”… it shows a couple who is readily waiting for the birth of their child.. I was very much reminded about my own pregnancy and child birth… We both have morning sickness throughout the whole pregnancy… and when its time to give birth, both our baby are facing the wrong way.. they are eager to see the world so they were facing up rather then looking down at the floor… and this make giving birth difficult… but hers was much better in the sense that they use different methods to help her push… the gave her a towel to pull so that she can assert her strength and all.. pros and cons here though may be wastage of energy but it helps sometime for you to push harder… like a counter strength…

and when she finally gave birth and the doc put her baby on her… i cried… cos I remembered the day I first saw Zai.. it was the same thing… they put her on my tummy… i was too tired then to think much.. but now that I see others, I can recall the moment…=

Time flies and Zai is 8 months pass that stage already… I miss him in my tummy.. I miss him in his little stage… I miss him now… …

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